The Love Battery, and how it works.
How to make relationships better.
Think of a person’s love needs like a battery. When they get enough love, in their own love language, their love battery charges up and they feel better. If they don’t get enough love in their own love language, they get cranky and stressed.
Some people need a lot of love and care.
What’s a love language?
There are 5 types of love languages from this website. For more details go to the website. Even if you give someone love, but not in their love language, they will not feel loved. Because you have to speak their love language. Here is a summary of the love languages.
Acts of service. When a person does something for someone else. Like picks them up from work, helps them do a chore, etc.
Receiving gifts. People like this really enjoy receiving small gifts. But be aware of people whose entire confidence is based on material things. Having a love language of receiving gifts is one thing, being obsessed with expensive material things is quite another.
Quality time. Some people like to spend time together, even just talking together while doing something else, or even watching a movie together.
Words of affirmation. These people like words that encourage them, and build them up.
Physical touch. People like this often like physical touch, and enjoy a massage from their loved one, or even if their loved one runs their fingers through their hair. Sex is often a bit form of intimacy for them as well.
So once you speak a person’s love language, not only are you giving love, they actually RECEIVE it. Just like in communication, just because a person is talking does not mean the other person is receiving the communication.
Knowing your own love language, and telling your partner about it, can make a lot of things much easier, but can also solve some incompatibility problem. If one person cannot give gifts, then they will not be able to make a person feel loved if their language is receiving gifts. This is a serious incompatibility.
Thank you!
You wrote this succinctly and in a short post made me understand what people are talking about when they use the term "Love Language." In the past, I have flinched away as soon as I heard or read that term because it sounded like an Oprah, Dr Phil, trendy self-help section of the bookstore title (I'm not knocking the self-help books generally, it's the grifter and fraudulent exploiting ones that rankle me. There's somewhere a Consumer's Guide to Self-Help Books" out there, I hope!).
Now, I get it.